[Joan Burge]

How well do you handle your emotions at the office? Do you manage them effectively or do you let them control you? Training expert, Joan Burge offers helpful advice for channeling the power of your emotions as a source of energy, rather than a negative influence on your professional life.
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[clancolin]

I recently attended a meting where I "Blew my top", so this article is quite timely.

The meeting was with another team (Team X) who, by seeking cost cuts, will be making my (and Team Y's) job harder from now on. The meeting was supposed to negotiate a few mitigation factors which I know from experience don't work.

I told the appropriate manager that I was very unhappy, and that the "negotiation" was a sham - if anyone criticises the future failure of the project, Team X will respond "But this was AGREED at that meeting you attended" - and I stated that I did not want to attend.

She insisted I attend and Team X (as I predicted) went on about how that were doing Team Y a favour in reality. I kept quiet until the manager of Team X directly asked for my opinion and so I told her, in no uncertain terms, what my opinion was and how unhappy I was with the "consultation" and the result.

Now my manager is insisting on going over this again and again. She says it's her fault for taking me in not knowing how aggressive I could be - so in other words, I've let her down badly.

I feel she let ME down badly by insisting I come to a meeting when I made it very plain that I was unhappy with the procedures and proceedings. Now my entire work performance is being overshadowed by this.

I'd appreciate an outsider viewpoint.