The Dos and Don'ts of Office Romance

Ahhh, office romances. Everyone whispers about them. While most are without consequence, some can be a true labor of love. In any instance, it is likely that the relationship will undergo intense scrutiny in the work place. Below are some tips for those involved in the work relationship and those who work with the lovers.

Professionalism

It's hard not to show affection at work, but even if you've got that down to a science, there are a few things you might not think of to avoid.

• Don't use pet names to address each other

• Don't hold hands

• Avoid walking together

• Avoid phone calls to each other throughout the day

• Do not hang out at each others desks

Objectivity

Whenever possible, it's important to demonstrate that the two of you do not work in unison. You must project that you are an individual and have a mind separate to that of your lovers. Its okay to disagree with your partner and it is a great way of ensuring trust within your co-workers.

Keep It at Home

Issues are bound to arise in and out of the office. Some may be caused by an office influence, or it could be a personal matter that has spilled over into the workplace. No matter the reason, keep it at home.

Ground Rules

It is extremely difficult to balance work and personal matters, however, for anyone agreeing to enter into a relationship with someone you work with, it's important to set a few ground rules.

• No arguing at work

• Do not use the phone or email to communicate privately

• Do not let your frustration show to your co-workers

• No childish remarks or looks

• Do not tell your boss about an argument

• Do not let an argument effect your work

You should always have a discussion before establishing exclusivity to ensure you're on the same page. Not adhering to these guidelines could have dire consequences. You're playing with a double edged sword: you can be fired, end your relationship, or both.

Make sure he/she is worth it. There is nothing worse than looking back with regret. There are probably fewer rules to live by if you're intending to have a fling with Joel, the mailroom clerk. Nevertheless, exercise caution in your romantic endeavors. This should not be taken lightly.

Beginning a relationship under such circumstances is strenuous on the relationship, and not recommended. As someone who speaks from experience, I can tell you that no part of it will be easy. You will have to understand and submit to the constant questioning and scrutiny you will be under because of your choices especially if you work closely with your significant other. Don't become rigid and bitter because of this, it's simply the nature of the beast. Co-workers will convince themselves that somehow the two of you are in cahoots and are taking the company for all their worth. As with most suspicion and anxiety, an heir of jealousy can be found. Who wouldn't want to work in complete harmony with the one you love? No worries, such absurdities will iron themselves out, just remain squeaky clean, and you'll show them maintaining a fair and balanced work environment with an understanding and passionate relationship is possible.